True friendship is hard to find nowadays. Being a good
friend isn't always easy either, but taking the time to nurture a lasting
friendship is really worth every ounce of effort. As the time passes, some
people will stay by your side, but many won't, and you'll realize that each
friendship you keep is priceless, it is worth more than anything you could ever
imagine, even greater than opening a treasure. Of course, to have a good
friend, you must be like one, and it takes a lot of effort in love and care. To
be a good friend, you have to establish a trusting friendship, be there for
your friend during hard times, and deepen a friendship to make it last. In
these 20 years of my life, I have definitely learnt something. As I grow older every year, I came to realize
that some people can stay in your heart but not in your life, and that your old
friends are now happy with their new friends. This happens a lot.
I personally think that being a good friend is to be
trustworthy. Keeping promises is important. I think that making a promise that
you can't keep is immature and sometimes will take a toll out of peoples’
feelings. Don’t ever make it as a habit. If you say you'll hang out with a
friend and a legitimate conflict arises, explain the situation and trust that
the friendship is strong enough for the noes as well as the yeses. Nobody's
perfect, and it's okay if you skip out on a promise once in a blue moon, but
don't make it a regular thing. When you make a serious promise, look to your
friend in the eyes and speak slowly to show that you really mean it instead of
just saying it because you think that you should.
I also learnt that apologizing is crucial when you
have made a mistake. If you want your friends to trust you, then you can't act
like you are flawless. If you know you have made a mistake, own up to it and
admit it instead of being in denial. Though your friends won't be happy that
you made a mistake, but they'll be very pleased that you're mature and grounded
enough to admit it instead of just pretending that nothing is wrong, or even
worse if you are to blame it on someone else. Saying sorry is not difficult.
Just put up with it and say it like you mean it. Let your friends hear the
sincerity in your voice instead of thinking that you don't really care how they
feel. Sometimes, in a situation of life, there comes a time that you have got
to shut up, swallow your pride, and accept that you're wrong. It's not giving
up, it's called growing up. I apologize if I ever somehow offended anyone reading
this, but this is one of the many things that I have truly learnt and gained some
decent experiences. It is memorable.
Furthermore, I think that respecting one another is
important too. Good friends show respect for each other by being openly and
mutually supportive even at their lowest moment. If your friend has certain
values and beliefs that don't align with your own, respect his or her choices
and be open to hearing more about them. If you want your friend to trust you,
then your friend should feel comfortable voicing opinions that you may or may
not agree with, or discussing a new perspective with you. If your friend thinks
that you'll shoot down any interesting or original idea that he or she may
have, then your friendship won't be valued. Sometimes your friend will say
things that you may find boring, uncomfortable or annoying, but if you have
respect for your friend, you'll give your friend the space to speak, and to do
so without judgment. During times when you don't see eye to eye with your
friend, disagree respectfully and be willing to see things differently.
To conclude this, the above
are the few points that I have learnt from him. I have truly learnt a lot from
my friend Victor Chen. I cannot thank God enough for him being in a part of my
life. Although we have our differences in many ways but I think that
differences are what make great friends. Plus, it can get irritating and they
probably won't trust your word. He was there in the beginning till now when I have
my struggles to face. He’ll be supporting me when I am at my lowest. He is such
an incredible person, beautiful inside and out. Above are the few points that I
have learnt from him. I pray that he knows I will do the same for him and I will
be there for him as well. I will be there when everyone else turns their back.
I will be there for him till the end of time. I don’t walk ahead of him to lead
him neither do I protect him from behind like a shadow. I am beside him, every
second fighting with him till my very last breath.
Love you bro.
DFTBA,
Dann’
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